5 Tips to Being Interesting

It might seem obvious, but to stand out from the crowd, be a successful writer and blogger—even a successful person for that matter—you have to be interesting. Pique people’s interest with your words or website and they will definitely come back; bore them and you will never see them again.

I’ve been writing, mostly about myself, for almost a year now—surely the least interesting topic you would think—yet have steadily built readership and traffic, mostly through writing alone. It’s simple, self-evident even, but when I write, the interest of my readers is always foremost in mind.

In trying to be interesting and relevant to my readership, often writing about things that are anything but mainstream, here are a couple of things I have learnt, some tips to lift your writing above the mundane.

1. Talking about yourself is never interesting

Most of us probably recognise the archetypal bore—the person who only talks about themselves, demands attention but never listens in return.

In terms of blogging it might seem like a contradiction, and in the context of my site even hypocritical—is not the very definition of blogging to talk about oneself, an online diary shared with the entire world? Yes, but there is a world of difference between the conversational forms of writing: confession, auto-biography, story-telling, and their paler, water-thin imitations: writing that is all narcissism, self-aggrandisement and self-interest.

Even in the form of a diary or autobiography, good writers maintain interest by offering rather than taking, sharing their valuable insight, impressions or emotions—sometime literally spilling blood and tears on the page for the sake of their readers, rather than boring to tears.

As an example, you might assume that the life of a restaurant waiter would be anything but interesting, but by sharing the intimate details of his life with others, along with acerbic wit and insight, the writer of Waiter Rant has built a massive readership, landed a book deal and won awards—and is for the most part 100% interesting.

Interesting writers don’t just talk about themselves, they share themselves as well.

2. Talk to people, not at them

Are you talking to people, or at them? Are you having a conversation, or instead making a speech? If the difference is not obvious you may have a little to learn, for the art of conversation implies the participation of more than one person. A true conversation is shared communication, listening by both parties. Unlike conversation, a speech is a one way street—in the blogging sense, your readers can either listen or get out of the way.

Of course every rule admits an exception—the writer of Violent Acres takes opinion, ranting and unabashed raving to their logical, sometimes illogical extremes—naval gazing with a sharpened seppuku knife if you will, the writing equivalent of “going postal”—but is therefore one of the most interesting, readable blogs around. It’s ok to rant and rave, even be offensive and disagreeable if you do it very, very well.

3. Write what people want to read

Kind of obvious this one, but it can imply something of a mind-shift. To be a good writer you need an appreciation of what others might find interesting, whether that be about yourself or a particular topic, as opposed to what you yourself find interesting. Unfortunately, our own and other’s interest are not always the same thing—a successful, interesting writer always has this point foremost in mind, a semi-critical reader of their own work as they are writing it.

4. Cut the chaff, keep the wheat

Less is often more in writing. Particularly online writing, where attention spans are smaller than they ever have been, competition for attention greater than ever before, it is imperative to keep in mind whether every line is necessary to making your point? Does each sentence, each paragraph further your argument or story? Can you complete your sentence with less words, finish a thought in half the…?

You can immediately recognise good from bad writing by the focus of the author; a good writer stays on topic, builds steadily and maintains energy and flow. Their every word, sentence and paragraph is well chosen and appropriate. Fast-paced, brief, more concentrated writing is easier and more enjoyable to read, and therefore more interesting.

5. Be selfless

To some extent blogging is fundamentally a selfless act, albeit perhaps unconsciously so. For most who blog there is little reward, attention or fame—hours are spent creating, offering something to the world for little in return.

Being selfless is synonymous with self-giving, which, believe it or not, intentionally or otherwise, is almost always interesting. When we offer something that people truly want—good writing, useful advice, helpful information—we automatically become interesting.

We all run a mile when we encounter websites that want something from us without giving anything in return—“sign up,” “complete this survey,” “buy this service;” conversely, the most popular, highly trafficked sites on the internet offer something freely, without explicit reward.

Ultimately selfish people or websites are never interesting—they demand our attention, interest, energy but give nothing in return.

But I’m already interesting?

So you already think you’re interesting? Witty, original and creative. Are you tempted to play with fire, dance with the devil and go for broke? Submit a suitably interesting catchphrase (my entry: “Putting the Miss in Misanthropic”) to the ongoing Violent Acres Catchphrase Contest and receive a link from a high-traffic, PR5 site. And maybe a little personal abuse…


The final list of entrants in the Tips and Tricks Contest has just been released,  and it includes entries by Sensitivity to Things friends NetWriting, AllAboutRunning and DontBeShy. Hopefully I didn’t miss anyone as it’s a long list.

  • HairySwede
    Posted at 21:48h, 20 September

    You got a vote from me!

  • Dee
    Posted at 00:36h, 21 September

    Great post as always. 🙂

  • Jaitra Gillespie
    Posted at 07:36h, 21 September

    Thanks Dee, you’re very kind.

    As are you too Mr Hairy Swede. Actually I like your entry as well—I’m a sucker for anything to do with football.

  • HairySwede
    Posted at 19:29h, 21 September

    It was a little tounge in cheek but Im glad you enjoyed it!

  • Sharani
    Posted at 01:03h, 26 September

    Consider me daft but are most of these comments votes or something? I’m somehow confused. 🙂 I enjoyed your post and have found myself thinking about the advice to ask questions of the reader in your post. I’m chuckling at the relative aspect of this type of advice. I took this advice to heart and seemed to get the opposite effect – my recent blog entries with questions in them haven’t garnered any comments and the ones where I wrote just freestyle did get comments. Reminds me of the debate about the pros and cons of using lists in a blog that you so adroitly wrote about – oh gee, can I be lazy and let you reply with the direct link to it?

  • Sharani
    Posted at 01:06h, 26 September

    Me again correcting my previous comment. You don’t actually say to ask questions in this post so why do I have that association? Oh well…

  • Jaitra Gillespie
    Posted at 08:03h, 26 September

    Thanks Sharani, asking questions is always fine—reader feedback is the lifeblood of blogging. I’ll reprint that article of lists here, as it was published elsewhere. As for writing freestyle, that’s my favourite style of all.

  • Jaitra Gillespie
    Posted at 08:07h, 26 September

    Oh yes, and most of the comments above are “trackbacks”—when you link to a blog, it is sent a ping, called a trackback, which appears on that blog as a short comment based upon the link. With some other blog software you have manually enter each trackback url, but WordPress does it automatically.

  • Pete Moring
    Posted at 19:44h, 09 October

    I enjoyed this post.
    Found your blog while surfing with Blogrush, it has been a great tool
    for that purpose alone.
    I have several blogs that I add to as and when I remember.
    (I know, a bit sad really). But this post has made me actually ‘THINK’.

    YEP! I think I’ll go and add some more content here and there, and try
    and take on board a few of your tips.



  • Jaitra Gillespie
    Posted at 19:56h, 09 October

    Thanks for stopping by Pete—interesting to hear that Blogrush is turning into a succes—I only just installed it. Glad to see that I still have some readers too—seeing as I am going through a bit of a quiet period…

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    Posted at 01:48h, 13 June

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  • Acupuncture
    Posted at 11:23h, 14 June

    Thank you for your post! I’m an acupuncturist in Colorado and just started a blog as my site. I am hoping to draw readership and people interested in finding out more information on acupuncture and Chinese herbs… I feel like there is a lot to learn about the blogging world and appreciate your pointers.

    Acupunctures last blog post..Acupuncture Parker, Colorado 80134 80138

  • Jaitra Gillespie
    Posted at 11:58h, 14 June

    Good luck with your blog Acupuncture. I visited China several years ago but didn’t quite summon the courage to try acupuncture—despite being encouraged to at the time by a physiotherapist.

    Jaitra Gillespies last blog post..Howard Jones: Best-selling Buddhist Pop Star

  • Acupuncture
    Posted at 06:44h, 15 June

    Thanks! Acupuncture (and Chinese herbs) are an amazing medicine that just gets your body to work the way it should. AND it doesn’t (or shouldn’t) hurt! Of course, that depends on the practitioner, as well, but the needles are only the thickness of a strand of hair. The practice of acupuncture is rather different in China–I, too, was in China and was surprised by the more “factory” style acupuncture there. So perhaps it wasn’t a bad idea to bypass it at that time 🙂 Take care!

    Acupunctures last blog post..Acupuncture Centennial, Colorado

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